While we understand why you’d want to bring a date to a wedding, there are times when going alone makes more sense than not going at all. If you don’t have a date , you weren’t given a plus-one, or your significant other can’t attend, you should still RSVP “yes”! And even though attending a wedding alone might seem to be embarrassing, it doesn’t have to be. Here’s how to make yourself more comfortable with the idea.
1. Find out if you’ll know anyone else there. After you’ve decided to attend alone, ask the couple or their maids to see if there’s anyone you might know on the guest list. Whether it’s a college friend or the bride’s sister, knowing you’ll know a few people there, even just casually, is a relief. Bonus: the couple may know of another solo guest who you might get along with, and they can introduce you via email or Facebook before the wedding.
2. Make new friends during cocktail hour or dinner. Sure, you might feel odd as the single person at a table full of couples, but do your best to be friendly and social. It’s not like being alone in a bar or restaurant; you have at least one thing in common with everyone there and “How do you know the couple?” is a great way to strike up a conversation. Our go-to new friends at a wedding? An older married couple.
3. Offer to help. Even if all the official roles are filled, many couples still need an extra set of hands on their wedding day. While you certainly don’t need to help just because you’re attending alone, doing something like breaking down the ceremony decor during cocktail hour can help stave off boredom and help you avoid mingling with strangers.
4. Identify lone family members who might be easy to talk to. It’s not unusual for family members of the couple to attend alone, or to not spend the entire night with their significant other. So keep an eye out for the single aunt, the bride’s pregnant sister who isn’t up for hitting the dance floor, or the table filled with grandpas and uncles. These are great people to strike up a conversation with on the sidelines.
5. Have a plan for the slow songs. Many people are comfortable hitting the dance floor alone during the fast songs, but they panic when the slow songs hit. While you couldmake a beeline for your table each time the song changes, you could also invite other guests (probably ones you know, even if just from cocktail hour) to slow dance with you, letting their dates take a break. And if you know the kiddos at the wedding well and you have their parents’ permission, you could twirl a flower girl or a ring bearer around the room for at least one slow song.
Your single status at a wedding is truly not that big of a deal; it’s four hours of your life that really aren’t about you. You’ll survive. And just enjoy the moments with your new friends.