Choosing your first dance song – moonlight and roses or minefield? We
take the stress out of choosing the perfect first dance song with some
handy tips learned from experience…
Choosing a first dance song is such a different experience for every
couple. For some, it is an easy breezy “that’s our song” and hey presto,
For others, it’s a minefield: you met on the dance floor of Coppers
and “boom, shake, shake, shake the room” isn’t going to cut it, you and
your man don’t have the same tastes in music – he loves Jay-Z while
you’re more a Moody Blues sort of girl, and you can’t bear the idea of
everyone you know watching you and your two left feet.
Well fear not, the first dance, as everything at your wedding, is
about you and your man being yourselves and having the time of your
life, so dispell all those fears, we’re here with some helpful pointers
to navigate the first dance song minefield and make sure you have a
first dance that is just fabulous…
Choosing the First Dance Song – Where to Start?
There are a few traditional schools of thought about how to pick the first dance song…
Some first dance songs will have a special meaning
for the couple – perhaps a song that was played a lot when you first met
or the tune that was playing as your eyes met across a crowded room!
Some couples choose a song that reminds them of an event – a great concert, festival, your first holiday together or special occasion.
Other ideas include choosing a song to fit with the theme of the wedding
– if you’re having a retro wedding then something with a retro vibe,
for a vintage wedding, a crooner classic will suit, or maybe a song you
both heard at Electric Picnic for a Summer outdoor wedding vibe.
If you’re a classic romanticist then a first dance song that has romance or love at its core; a good soppy song to make everyone say awwwwh, as you trip the light fantastic.
Or finally, why not simply choose a song from your favorite band or artist? IF you can agree on at least one band or artist you both like!
Practicality – Can Your Band play Your First Dance Song?
Bear in mind the kind of band you’re having when choosing a song.
Will your band be able to play the song you choose? Basically, here’s no
point asking a jazz band to play a rock song, or ask your 90s band to
play Fly Me to the Moon. Lots of bands have the more popular first dance
songs in their repertoire, but sometimes your band won’t have your
chosen first dance song in their repertoire, or simply won’t be able to
play the first dance song. You need to think about how important it is
for you that the band play your song and ask them if they can/will learn
a song especially for you before making the final decision.
Don’t discount the song just because they can’t play it, if the song
is important to you then consider using an iPod or CD. It’s really
about how the balance of how important the song is vs having a live band
serenade you. Another alternative is if you have a friend or family
member who is a great singer or musician, maybe it’s an option to ask
them to perform? Most musical people would be honored to be asked, and
it makes the first dance all the more personal…
Finally, Some First Song Reminders
You don’t have to LOVE your first dance song – it doesn’t have to be “the one” it’s perfectly OK to just serve a purpose.
It doesn’t have to be “your song” – so what if you don’t have a “song”, who made up that rule anyways?
It doesn’t have to be a slow waltzy-schmaltzy number – if you’re more into headbanging than shuffling, then do it, it’s your wedding!
There’s going to be a first dance of the evening, you can’t fight
that, but if you’re not that in to the whole thing, or don’t want
everyone staring at you, it’s perfectly fine to choose a song that will
get the dance floor pumping quickly. People will inevitably push you
into the first dance on your own, but you can minimize the time alone on
the dance floor with a party-starting number and by actively encouraging
people to get up and join you…
Our Picks for First Dance Songs
So now your brain is buzzing with lots of ideas, you’re a bit stuck
as to where to start? Don’t worry, we’ve done some of the hard work for
you and selected our 99 favorite first dance songs – everything from fun and funky dance numbers, to old classics… so lash on the old YouTube
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