Just a couple of weeks after sending out your wedding invitations, the RSVPS will start to arrive…as do the wedding gifts! (Which makes checking the mail in the month before your wedding so fun!) And thanking each and every guest not only for giving a gift, but also for attending your wedding, is an etiquette must. Read on to discover everything you need to know about sending out your wedding thank-yous.



Purchase thank you cards before your wedding. In our experience, you’ll be completely overcome with gratitude in the days after your wedding and will want to send thank you cards immediately, so don’t put off buying them. If you like the look of the modern cards that include a wedding photo, at least choose the card you’ll send as early as possible; then you can quickly complete the order once you have then photos from your photographer. We also suggest buying some thank you notes to send for shower or engagement gifts in the meantime.

Send thank yous as gifts arrive. There’s no sense in waiting until you have dozens of presents to sort through.

Send them within a few weeks of your wedding. You do not have a year to send out thank-you cards – you have three months max. Start writing and mailing your notes when you get back from your honeymoon. (But don’t stop sending thank-you notes even if it takes you more than three months!)

Mention the specific gift and how you plan to use it. Guests want to know they’ve given you something you love and can use, so thank them for giving you cash towards your first home, or for the new KitchenAid mixer you plan to use to make fresh pasta.

Thank guests for attending. Whether your guest gave a gift or not, thank them for their time and presence at your wedding. If you’re writing to a bridesmaid or groomsman, thank them specifically for the things they did to help make your day perfect.

Send photos if you can. If you have a few early prints from your photographer, include one of your portraits or a picture of yourselves with the guest you’re thanking, or a great shot of the guest in the photo booth. You could also take a photo of yourselves using the gift and send that along.


Be stodgy or formal in your note. Just because you’re following an etiquette rule by sending thank yous doesn’t mean you have to adopt an unnatural tone. Stick to conversational language that’s authentically you.

Mention any specific dollar amounts. While you should say thanks for the generous gift towards your honeymoon, or a gift card to Bed, Bath & Beyond, refrain from mentioning the amount given.

Send a digital thank you. There’s nothing worse than receiving a thank-you email, Facebook message, or text, so do it the old-fashioned way and send a handwritten note in the mail. You should also avoid sending pre-printed messages with just your signature – take the time to write out the whole note.

Spell your guests’ name wrong. Double and triple check the spelling of each guest’s name before sending off thank-you notes.

Be rude about the gift if you didn’t like it. Even if you received a bizarre tea cozy or someone’s old tablecloth, thank them for the gift and move on with your life. Writing thank-you notes is not an opportunity to be passive aggressive. And even if you got duplicates, should avoid mentioning that you plan to return a gift.

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